How to say “NO” to your kid.

Children are curious and intrusive by nature. Especially at the earlier age, because children are born naturally to be curious and intrusive they always have the intention to understand. As they grow up, they will be more inquiring because they want to comprehend the way you think and why they should follow the same way. So when you setting up the rules and expectations in your home it is imperative to let your child understand that there is no room for questioning the rules you set. You will set the forth and consequence of breaking the rules. They will understand that the rule is to be follow; you will be fine if you break the rules. As, they are too young to understand the reasons.

Children born with the tendency of being a child that their parents proud with. This is the nature of a child. Honestly, children do not understand your long and lengthy explanation when you are trying to tell them “NO” or not allowing to do things at such a young age. But, children are born with the capability of being their parent’s good kids. They will try their best to become good kids. So when you are trying to say NO to your children you can always tell that. Don’t do that because I am not happy with it. You will be surprise that they will not repeat that again. Because they understand that, if that repeat or did that again, my mummy or daddy will be not happy with me.

As a parent, try your best to avoid telling your kids “Because I said NO”. Just imagine, children are so curious when they start to learn and expose to the world. But as a parent you are stopping them by just a word “NO” don’t you think it is cruel to your kids? You are controlling them but not teaching them! You will probably explain to them as they grow or when they have the capability to understand. But when they are small, (between the ages of 1-4), you can try to stop them from doing things by telling them you are not happy with, they will not do that!

But as your child grows to the teenager and adolescents stage, you will need to explain to them. Because, at this age they are equip with the mentality and ability to understand. You will start to get a lot of ‘why’ ‘why I can’t’ questions. At this stage, you will need to tell them honestly the reasons of not being allowed to do so. When your child is grow to be at this age, it will be an opportunity for you to set the consequences of not obedient to the house’s rules. But, you must be consistent, firm and clear if you want to train your child to be discipline. At this stage, you will face bigger challenge. As you will need to answer and tell them why they are not allowing doing so. As your child might start to questioning you the reason of following the setting up rules or why it need to be like that. Control your emotion parents, calm down and do not get frustrated. This is their way of understanding the new world that they are born into and they are in the learning stage too. So appreciate your child.